dnemiller wrote:
Master_Jorth wrote:
dnemiller wrote:
you know that is really true. I think it is hilarious younger ladies (in 18-24 range) think I am hilarious and funny. They say they wish they could meet guys their age that could express themselves. Well I know hearing that I thought it was my wisdom and age. But now I am thinking that it is just their male counterparts are complete morons. Man to be that young again..... youth is wasted ont he young for sure.
And before you ask what I am doing talking to young ladies. Remember my oldest is 22 and so I have a lot of interactions with people that age. What can I say I am popular.
You know, all of what you say is true, but Dean, don't underestimate the fact that your social skills HAVE been improved by being a tabletop gamer.
None of my social skills are from table top gaming.... ZERO!!!!!! my social skills come from law enforcment that is why I am so kind!!!
I tend to agree with this. As a kid, I was huge into video gaming, had very few social skills, and skirted by in college. It probably wasn't until I started working with professionals in my field that I began to develop the social skills needed to deal with people on a face-to-face basis. Yes, I know sometimes it doesn't come across that way on the boards, but most (not all, but most) people warm up to me in person. (Just ask Jack or Nickname.)
I'm not perfect at it (obviously), but I have learned how to deal with difficult people through my job more than anything else. And I've been doing this for 10 years successfully, so I must be getting something right.
I read two books that I think were the most influential. One of those was "How to win friends and gain influence." Great stuff, it's timeless advice written in the 1940's. The other one, which I cannot remember the name of, had some nice suggestions but nothing quite so earth-shattering as in the other.